It’s Time to Stop Beating Yourself Up

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“I suck at follow-up.”

“I don’t deserve to make $1 million.”

“It’s hard for me to get in shape.”

“I just really like bad food.”

If someone told you to write the perfect script for your life’s story, would you include any of those sentences?

Then why do you tell yourself things like this in real life?

What You Say (To Yourself) Matters

What you need to realize is that these things you tell yourself become part of your personal narrative.

Your personal narrative actually informs your worldview and dictates your results.

That’s why it’s extremely important that you eliminate the negative self-talk from your narrative.

If you don’t, here’s the cycle you perpetuate:

  1. You project your narrative.
  2. You pass it on to everyone around you.
  3. The more you share it, the more others reinforce it.
  4. And soon, people will communicate to you around your story as if it’s real.

It’s a dangerous game you’re better off not playing.


Oh Wait, You Have a Reason?

I know someone out there is reading this thinking…

“But Tom, I’m this way because ________.”

It doesn’t really matter what fills in that blank… I’m not buying it.

It’s not what happens that matters. It’s how you respond to it. That’s where all the success and all the failure lies.

So if some traumatic event or bad experience continues to plague you…

I’d contend it’s because you’re continuing to tell yourself that story.

You can choose to respond differently. You can choose to overcome.


Don’t Derail Yourself

The same holds true for minor setbacks.

I believe too many people today allow little things to completely destroy their day, their week, their year. They stub their toe and the week is over.

When things go wrong, right the ship and move on.

Look for the little victories. Use this sentence to help you break your pattern:

“I’d always done _________, but this time I’m making a better choice.”

When writing your story, make yourself the hero, not the villain!


It’s 2018. Get with the Times.

We live in a modern age. We know things. We’re supposed to be enlightened.

That’s why I feel it’s irresponsible for you to buy into the negative self-doubt and self-talk in 2018.

It’s shocking to think that some people still believe they’re not in control of their destiny.

It’s time to stop telling yourself why you can’t do things.

It’s time to stop making excuses for failing to fulfill your potential.

It’s time to stop letting your narrative work against you and start having it work for you.

It’s time to start envisioning the life you want for yourself 5-10-20 years from now and make every day a reflection of that vision.

If you need help getting there, let me know.

Tom Ferry - Success Summit



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