How to Stop Self Sabotage and Take Control of Your Success

If you’re trying to grow in your business or life, knowing how to stop self sabotage is just as important as setting the right goals. You might be doing all the right things, but still not making the progress you expect. That’s because your habits, thoughts, and distractions might be sabotaging you without you even realizing it.

Let’s talk about how to stop self-sabotaging behavior, overcome bad habits, and finally take control of your time, focus, and energy.

How to Recognize Self-Sabotaging Behavior

The first step in learning how to stop self sabotage is recognizing the signs. Ask yourself:

  • Are you procrastinating on important tasks?
  • Do you say yes to things you know drain your time and energy?
  • Are you constantly “busy” but not actually productive?
  • Do you start each week with good intentions but fall off by Wednesday?

These are classic signs of self-sabotage. And they’re usually rooted in deeper beliefs: fear of failure, perfectionism, or a lack of clear direction.

Here’s how to break that cycle and start learning how to meet goals.

Cut Out What’s No Longer Serving You

Growth requires letting go. So let me ask you a serious question: What are you no longer willing to tolerate in your life?

That’s not the same as asking what you want to change. It’s about what you’ve decided, right now, that is no longer acceptable. Because when you make that decision, your life begins to shift.

Look at how you spend your time and energy. Do a daily audit. Be honest. If something isn’t moving you closer to your goals or bringing you fulfillment, it’s time to put your foot down.

Reclaim Your Mornings and Build Better Habits

Your morning routine sets the tone for everything. If your mornings are chaotic, rushed, or filled with poor choices, you’re starting your day in self-sabotage mode.

Here’s how to build a better morning:

  • Wake up early and avoid the snooze button
  • Start with meditation, journaling, or gratitude
  • Eat something healthy and drink water
  • Review your schedule and set your top priorities

Here’s how to create a powerful morning routine that puts you in control.

Protect Your Highest and Best Use of Time

If you’re a real estate agent, your job isn’t administrative work—it’s generating business, meeting clients, and closing deals. But so many agents sabotage their success by spending too much time on tasks someone else could handle.

If you want to stop self-sabotage, you need to delegate. That might mean hiring:

The more time you spend in your zone of genius, the faster you’ll grow.

Stop Letting “Relaxation” Drain Your Energy

Self-sabotage doesn’t just happen at work. It happens when you tell yourself you’re relaxing—but actually numbing out. Things like binge-watching TV, scrolling endlessly, or overeating may feel like downtime, but they leave you drained.

Instead, use your free time to:

  • Learn a new skill
  • Connect with people who energize you
  • Exercise, create, or rest mindfully

As Dr. Daniel Amen once said on the Tom Ferry podcast, “Eating bad food isn’t a reward. It’s a punishment.” The same goes for anything that sabotages your mindset.

You Know How to Stop Self Sabotage. What You Need to Change?

You already know where you’re holding yourself back. Now is the time to take action. Make the decision to stop tolerating self-sabotage and start showing up for yourself at a higher level.

Need help? We’ve got your back. Explore our real estate agent tools or book a real estate coaching consultation to get expert guidance and accountability.