You Deserve More: How to Be Better and Get More Out of Life

After coaching professionals for over 30,000 hours, I’ve uncovered a pattern that holds back even the most talented people. It’s not lack of resources. It’s not lack of opportunity.

It’s a lack of belief.

Too many people don’t think they deserve success—and that mindset silently sabotages their potential. If you’re wondering how to be better in your personal or professional life, it starts here.

Whether you’re chasing bigger goals, aiming for personal growth, or just trying to feel more fulfilled day to day, overcoming self-doubt is step one. Let’s unpack the beliefs holding you back and create a path forward.

How to Be Better and Break the Downward Spiral

With so much going on in the world, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed, discouraged, or stuck. But here’s what I need you to hear clearly:

Your feelings don’t define your self-worth.

You’ve been given an incredible opportunity—to live in this moment, to learn, to grow, and to thrive. You deserve a life filled with joy, purpose, and momentum.

But to get there, you need to start believing in your ability to change. That’s the first step in learning how to be better.

Most people I meet who feel stuck are trapped in a story they’ve told themselves for years:

“I’m not good enough.”

“I don’t have what it takes.”

“I always mess things up.”

These internal stories shape your mindset. That mindset drives your behavior. And over time, your reality begins to reflect those limiting beliefs—not because they’re true, but because you’ve repeated them so often they feel like truth.

Sound familiar? Then let’s rewrite the script.

5 Steps on How to Be Better and Get What You Deserve

These five steps won’t fix everything overnight, but they will shift your thinking, elevate your habits, and help you step into a stronger, more powerful version of yourself.

If you’re serious about becoming better—personally, professionally, emotionally—this is your blueprint.

Step 1: Get Clear on What “Better” Means to You

Clarity is the first key in figuring out how to be better. What does “better” look like in your life?

More income?

A healthier work/life balance?

Deeper connections with loved ones?

Building confidence and courage?

When you define what being better means for you, you stop chasing someone else’s version of success and start pursuing your own with purpose.

Step 2: Find the Why Behind Your Growth

Knowing your “what” is great. But understanding why you want to grow gives your actions power and staying power.

Check out our guide on how to find your why to dig deep. Your why is your anchor. It keeps you moving when things get tough and reminds you what’s really at stake.

Step 3: Create and Commit to a Plan

You wouldn’t go on a road trip without a map—so why try to improve your life without a plan?

Use your goals to guide you. Break them into small, manageable steps. Use tools like your business plan or a daily number tracker to monitor progress.

Most importantly, follow through. Planning is important, but execution is everything.

Step 4: Add Accountability for Consistent Progress

Want to really learn how to be better—faster? Don’t go it alone.

Accountability accelerates results. Whether it’s a coach, mentor, manager, or trusted peer, choose someone who will:

Check in with you

Encourage you when you stall

Push you to stretch

When you know someone is holding you to your word, your actions become intentional—and your results improve dramatically.

Step 5: Celebrate Progress and Keep Going

Celebrate your wins—no matter how small.

Every time you hit a goal or take a meaningful step forward, pause and acknowledge it. This reinforces a growth mindset and keeps your momentum going.

Then? Set your next target. Adjust the plan. And repeat the process with even greater confidence.

How to Be Better Begins with Belief

Let’s bring it full circle.

You can master all five steps… but none of it will matter unless you believe you deserve a better life.

That belief is the foundation of all growth.

So here’s what I believe:
I believe you have something unique and powerful to offer.
I believe you’re capable of greatness.
And I believe that by committing to being better, you’ll unlock the freedom, fulfillment, and success you were meant for.

What’s the next version of you waiting to emerge?

Find it. Believe in it. Go build it.

Sound off in the comments below. What step are you taking first? What part of “being better” are you most excited to work on? Let me know!