A recent post in our private Facebook Group for coaching members did two things:
- Got me thinking about how important it is to move on after a defeat, and…
- Made me so proud to read some of the responses our members shared in response.
Here it is, from coaching member Kim Tarbox in Scarborough, Maine:
“Ugh. How do YOU bounce back from losing a listing?”
We’ve all been there.
In the moment, a setback like this can feel devastating. You’ve put in all this work and then your opportunity vanishes in the blink of an eye. You’re back to square one with nothing to show for your work.
It’s understandable to feel a bit down and defeated.
But after that initial feeling, how do you respond?
If you let yourself dwell on it, you’re only compounding the problem.
In Kim’s Facebook post, lots of people chimed in with great advice (and some hilarious jokes to lift her spirits as well).
Below, I’m sharing some of the best advice Kim received from her fellow coaching members. I’ll add my comments and an extra idea or two as well.
Good Advice is Good Advice
Before we get to the advice, a word of warning:
Some of these suggestions might seem obvious. Others are more original.
To me, they’re all equally valuable.
Sometimes it’s a simple message that resonates and gets you back into action. Other times, it will require getting out of your comfort zone and doing something different than normal.
Let’s get started. My comments will be in italics.
“Go get two more. Just happened to me yesterday!”
KC McKeown of Dallas, TX
“It’s a numbers game. Just keep grinding. You’re not gonna get em all.”
Kris Shannon of Gahanna, OH
“Just stay positive and focused! Don’t let it steal your joy! It happens to everybody at some point.”
Connie Santiago of Spring, TX
“As Tom says… Next! Get back out there.”
Beth Tischler of Downers Grove, IL
These all fall into a great, optimistic approach of not letting things get you down and maintaining forward momentum. If you can move past adversity with this type of bulletproof optimism, congratulations and keep up the good work! That’s not always easy for everyone, however. Let’s take a look at a few more great responses Kim got.
“You get 15 minutes to be bummed, reflect on why and do you need to change anything? The 15-minute rule saved my sanity.”
Julie Joyce of Boston, MA